[quote style=”boxed”]Try to connect and befriend as many people as possible who are already where you want to be – Pat Flynn[/quote]using connections to succeed

For the longest time, i’ve often felt like I was experiencing a streak of bad luck. So much so that I often felt carrying on the current path I was in was a complete waste of time. Looking back at my past, perhaps I was right.

Back in 2005 having graduated from University and excited about what was in front of me in the real world. I had visions of myself getting into the video games industry and becoming known as one of the most successful video game creators the world has ever seen.

Lofty goals for sure, yet it was what kept me going for a number of years until I decided the industry wasn’t for me and fell into the world of Computers and System Administration. It wasn’t until my first job when I experienced a taste of entrepreneurship having personally met a venture capitalist that I started to notice where my passions steered.

I was keen on starting my own business but lacked the skills or know-how to get started. Over the coming years, I went from job to job, not really happy with the way things were going. Often trying to analyze why I was being steered in the direction I really didn’t want to be going in. Most of the time, I fell into jobs mostly due to acts of desperation, a tough economy and a lack of financial resources. I knew that something had to change…

The turning point

Perhaps the biggest turning point for me throughout the course of the last 7 years was that I was never really alone in the ordeals I was going through. It was really easy to label myself as someone going through a unique set of problems at the time because I would often read success stories of people achieving momentous success.

We’re rarely ever shown the journey towards what made successful people a success in the first place. And it isn’t until you discover the truth when you realize that your problems aren’t actually unique at all. Looking for other examples of such case studies. I recently came across a book written by ‘Pat Flynn’ from Smart Passive Income.

Let Go

Having read Pat Flynn’s book, it was clear that the success he has achieved in the last few years of starting his business is no coincidence. Pat has been a personal inspiration of mine for a number of years, having followed his blog since it’s inception and watching it grow into the behemoth that it is today.

Pat is well known for his transparency and has often told his story on a number of occasions. His book ‘Let Go’ goes into further detail as to what really happened during the course of his journey, leading up to the success of his first blog Greenexamacademy.com, a blog dedicated to passing the LEED exam for architects.

What was clear from his story and the interview, which i’ll include very shortly was that Pat had a desire to spread his knowledge in the form of a study guide for other architects and had no desire at the time to make any money from it. His keen willingness to share what he knew turned out to be what was to be his life changing moment.

But perhaps the biggest takeaway from this was that he wouldn’t have discovered this without a few key people who had advised him to create a physical study guide to sell through his blog, which turned his life around completely.

I began to realize how important using connections to succeed actually is. None of what I achieved could have ever been possible without the help of other people or mentors who were already doing what I aspired to do.

I noticed just how much I was able to relate to the story, which gave me a boost in Self-Confidence knowing that I could achieve similar results if I just keep going.

My personal thoughts of the book is shown here in video form.

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It’s clear that success is often a difficult thing to experience as it takes determination, the willingness to fail and to most importantly, seek to educate yourself throughout the journey in order to make smart decisions. And none of this could really be done alone as it takes a group of like minded people in order to help each other grow and succeed. Advice, which Pat gives to me personally and what he would do had he started again from the beginning.

The Interview

Having interviewed Pat, what I was instantly able to notice was his sheer enthusiasm and drive, which was obviously what kept him going. It’s clear how passionate he is about his business and why helping people is what gives you the motivation in the first place. It’s your fans or in other words, your friendships and connections that is key to life long success.

I was reminded by this time and time again throughout the 22 minutes I had with Pat, and gave me a clear direction as to what I should look for in order to become successful. And it’s rarely ever a coincidence to find people who seem to have purpose in their lives since most of it comes from the willingness to help others via communication, connection and the openness to befriend other people on the same journey as you.

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Speaking to Pat gave me a load of takeaways, which I know would not only affect my life moving forward but to anyone watching the interview, and reading his book. The principles I learned really made an affect on me and have listed them below.

  • Having a fan base is everything. If it’s changing their lives and helping them, you know you’re doing it right.
  • Success creeps up on you. You might not know it at the time, but as long as you keep giving in value, it is simply inevitable.
  • Nothing you do can be done alone. We are here to serve and can only ever get by if you serve others in some way.
  • Failure isn’t a bad thing. Society has shaped our minds to believe otherwise, but if you learn to accept failure as a tool to grow, you’ll be that much further ahead.
  • Look for mentors and like minded people to help you move forward. It’s difficult doing it alone when no one knows what you’re doing and need people to spur you on in times of difficulty.


‘Let Go’ is a really great book and one that will take you a few hours to read from start to finish. If you want to know what it takes to become successful, I would definitely recommend a read as it’s honest, straight to the point and completely transparent. It will definitely inspire you to take the journey yourself and will no doubt see similar results if you decide to move forward.

For more information on Pat and his businesses, please visit his websites, which i’ve included a link to below:



Resources In The Video

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  •  Let Go – Pat Flynn’s touching memoir about overcoming adversity through a commitment to pursuing your own path.

What hardships and challenges did you face when pursuing a new goal? Please leave your comments below…

Onder Hassan
Onder Hassan

Onder is the founder of Dawn of Change. He spends most of his time in the discovery of his own potential, building his self-confidence and using his experiences to share and teach others how to do the same.

    15 replies to "How Friendship And Connections Are Key To Life Long Success – An Interview With ‘Pat Flynn’"

    • Pat Flynn

      Thanks again for having me on your show Onder, and I’m honored for your kind review and the time you spent to create a video about Let Go. Thank you so much!

      • Onder Hassan

        You’re welcome Pat!

        I’m honored to have interviewed you. Thank you for for taking part 🙂
        All the best!

    • Hiten Vyas

      Hi Onder,

      This was a wonderful interview with Pat! I loved the way he talked about interviewing members of his family. I could so connect with the point about success creeping up on us. What I find useful to do, is to forget the outcome at times altogether and just do the work that needs to be done. By focusing on the tasks and getting them completed, pretty soon we’ll have made so much progress that success will start to become apparent.

      Thank you.

      • Onder Hassan

        Hey Hiten,

        You’re absolutely right. I think the key is to enjoy what you’re doing and to forget about the outcome. Mostly for our own sanity because the minute you put an expectation on something and you don’t achieve it, it makes you forget about the big picture.

        I’m glad you liked the interview 🙂

    • Nick

      This was an inspiring interview, Onder, as I previously mentioned. I’ve got too many books to read on my shelves at the moment, but it’s something I’ll add to my list and come back to later.

      To your continued success and development, Onder, have an awesome day!

      • Onder Hassan

        Thanks Nick,
        We can do this! It’s inevitable 🙂
        Have an awesome day!

    • Tom Dixon

      Sweet! Love that you had a chance to interview with Pat…I am just now discovering his site and what he has accomplished….it is almost overwhelming. Let Go is on my list to check out.

      • Onder Hassan

        Pat is great Tom. Very surprised you haven’t heard of him yet 🙂
        I discovered him when he first started his blog. He quickly rose to fame within a year.

        Definitely a good role model to learn from.

    • Vidya

      Hi Onder, thanks for posting both your review and interview with Pat! I’ve heard of him, but never gone to his site or seen an interview with him. It was great hearing his story as well as the journey you are on–both are of incredible value to me as someone who has long flirted with self-development, but only recently committed to it and finding ways to bring value to others. I look forward to reading Let Go, and your next post!

      • Onder Hassan

        Thanks for reaching out Vidya,
        I’m really happy that my content is helping you and giving you the motivation to get started. It’s a difficult journey but i’m sure with all of our contribution, we could help each other reach the next level.
        Let me know if you need any assistance.

        • Vidya

          very welcome Onder. Whenever I see or
          hear the word difficult it makes me
          smile 🙂 after reading The Road Less Travelled.
          Life is difficult. And so
          wonderful because it is. We would never
          discover our untapped potential if it
          were not for difficulties. And you’re
          right, I do believe with all of our contribution we could help each other reach the next level. Thank you for
          extending kind words of assistance, I may take you up on that in the future.

    • […] and happiness has been drastic and has been something i’ve personally spoken about in a previous article and in particular, how it lead me onto starting this blog. One thing I haven’t mentioned is […]

    • yepi 10

      How Friendship And Connections Are Key To Life Long Success – An Interview With ‘Pat Flynn’! great

    • Daniel Nelson

      Hey Onder, I just came across Pat and his book and will dig into it shortly. As a fellow blogger I can second what Pat mentioned about the simple willingness to share something of value for others.

      My largest passion in life is design so a couple of years ago I started a blog called “From up North”(http://fromupnorth.com) where I just pretty much just publish design work that in someway inspires me as a designer. And I always say that the key to the growth of my blog have been that it have been fueled by passion, not money or anything else.

      Anyways, thanks for the article. I’m really looking forward to sitting down and reading Pat’s book over the weekend.

      • Onder Hassan

        Thanks for the shout out Daniel.

        It’s true, I realised the same thing as you about a year into doing this. It’s a universal law in that the more you put in in terms of energy, value or passion, the more you will get out.

        Robert Cialdini, refers to this as the ‘law of reciprocity’ in his book “The psychology of persuasion”

        The more you give, the more others will feel compelled to give back to you as a sign of gratitude. But the trick is to give without ay expectation.

        Passion definitely does come into it, because in order to give without any expectation, you have to truly love what you do and be willing to do it for free.

        I’ll definitely check out your blog.

        Thanks for watching the video.

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