Is it possible to get everything you want from this world without asking for anything?

As weird as this may sound. But yes it is!

As of today, I have to be frank and say that I’m a complete idiot. Because having gone out for 2 months now whilst taking some breaks in between. It has only now been apparent to me as to why I was failing and doing terribly when starting conversations with people and perhaps everything else in my life I’ve experienced in the past.

The long and short of it is. I feel so much more grateful and happy after the events of what happened versus any other day of my life so far.

Did I win the lottery?… Nope, though it almost feels that way.

Did I find a cure for cancer?… Nope, far from it.

The answer is simple… I feel great because I gave something of myself that made someone feel great about themselves.

Every single person I approached, stopped and spoke to me.

Every interaction felt as though I was giving away enormous value to the person, which made them want to invest further in the interaction.

The reason why was because I genuinely felt great about myself and due to the nice weather at the time, made me feel as though I was walking on water. Confident, happy and self-assured, which clearly showed.

This taught me a valuable lesson – You can’t expect anything from anyone without giving value to that person in the first place.

A few people might argue that you can cut out a lot of this rubbish and simply offer monetary value and resources as that’s what’s really important in life when it comes to wealth.

First of all, let me just say that you’ve been lied to!

Money and external resources have no value. They are all the things we’ve been conditioned to believe as valuable by society by the world around us.

If anything, it becomes a detriment to your self-esteem because you’re essentially training yourself to believe that who you are isn’t enough.

But without digressing too much, the real value comes from who you are as a person and what you genuinely have to offer to someone, which in most cases isn’t something that’s particularly tangible.

So what is valuable?

It’s pretty simple… It’s YOU.

Everything in this world begins and ends with you. Whatever you project onto the world gets reflected back to you, and gives you a clue as to the type of person you really are.

So if your life currently sucks, sit up and take notice.

Why does it suck?

Is the world to blame of your problems or is it because of the actions you’ve taken due to your negative psychology?

The answer is obvious.

So how do you become valuable?

No one can give you the permission to be valuable or be anything for that matter. It all has to come from you and have to essentially give yourself the permission to be.

It reminds me of a really cool video that a friend of mine showed me a few years ago, which helped put everything into perspective.

If you’re sitting on your comfy chair right now and reading this article, trying really hard to identify with the things I’ve written and whether or not you have value to give to others.

Please try to understand that you do. There is nothing different about you that others can’t relate to in some way. You have the opportunity to be and do anything in this world.

And it all starts with giving yourself the permission to do so.

Now it’s over to you. How will you begin to give value to others? Please let me know by leaving your comments below..

photo credit: julis_travel_log

Onder Hassan
Onder Hassan

Onder is the founder of Dawn of Change. He spends most of his time in the discovery of his own potential, building his self-confidence and using his experiences to share and teach others how to do the same.

    4 replies to "If You Think Your Life Sucks, Read This"

    • jamie flexman

      Hey, starting with oneself is one of the best ways of taking on the world. Firstly, to take care of others we first need to take care of ourselves – look after number 1 and the rest follows. Secondly I think that we need to talk to people as if we are talking to ourselves – that way, we will always offer value and compassion.

      • Onder Hassan

        Exactly right!
        Last Saturday was an epiphany moment for me. Despite understanding it, I never quite got it until last Saturday.
        People respond to however you are. And the thing is, it can’t be faked.

    • Mike Martens

      Hey great post, I always say its our differences that creates our rewards in life, not our similarities and that ideology resounded with me when I read this article.

      As for the comment below, I disagree.

      I think there is a difference between taking care of ourselves and our own self confidence and putting ourselves first.

      By putting the needs of others ahead of our own, we become the cause to everything that then happens for us. Serving others with value, but also humility, trust and honesty comes back to produce favor and abundance in our own lives many times more than anything we could do by putting ourselves first…

      • Onder Hassan

        Hey Mike, Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment 🙂

        I think you make a very good point.

        While its great adding value to people, there has to ultimately come a point where you have to stop due to the feedback you’re getting. Some people genuinely don’t appreciate or respond in a positive way, which means cutting your losses and walking away.

        Value is very subjective from person to person, so what one person might ultimately find valuable, another person might not. And that’s completely normal as I’m completely ok with the fact that not everyone is going to like me.

        And I think that’s a great foundation to have and build on because it encourages self-acceptance and not caring what people think about you, which for me has strengthened the more i’ve gone out and spoken to more and more people.

        I’m glad you’ve liked what I’ve written. Keep an eye out for another update very soon 🙂

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