The biggest battle you’ll ever have towards your goals is the battle with yourself.

Have you ever wondered what it really takes to become successful and good at something?

For the longest time, I used to think the people who seemed to be the best at things were the ones who were just born with it or had a natural proficiency at the skill they were practicing.

How wrong I was…

This was the mindset that stuck with me ever since school days where the brightest of my friends would shy away from being honest and instead simply respond with “I don’t know, i’m just naturally good at it”.

Reflecting on it now, It was clear why this was the case. They simply didn’t want to own up to the fact that they would spend hours studying and not owning up to it for the fear that they would get called out as nerds or geeks.

The older i’ve gotten, the more clear it becomes of the reality of what really takes to become successful, and its pretty obvious.

Brian Clark from Copyblogger wrote a simple but powerful article, which really captures this to it’s bare essence.

It’s so simple that if I were to read it while I was at school, I would probably look at it and laugh at how obvious it is. Because deep down, all of us intuitively know what needs to be done but constantly hope and wish for the magic pill that can allow us to cut corners.

If you’ve been following my 180-Day Cold Approach Challenge and understand the premise of this blog, you will already know what it takes.

So to use Brian Clark’s article as inspiration, i’m going to list the exact steps you need to take to succeed at anything:

Becoming a Better Painter

  1. Paint
  2. Paint some more.
  3. Paint when you can’t be bothered to pain.
  4. Paint when you are.
  5. Paint when you’re tired or ill.
  6. Paint when you don’t know what to paint.
  7. Paint when you do.
  8. Paint when you’re lacking in motivation.
  9. Paint when you’re inspired.
  10. Paint for the sake of painting.

Becoming Better Socially

  1. Interact
  2. Interact some more.
  3. Interact when you can’t be bothered to interact.
  4. Interact when you are.
  5. Interact when you’re tired or ill.
  6. Interact when you don’t know what to say.
  7. Interact when you do.
  8. Interact when you’re lacking in motivation.
  9. Interact when you’re inspired.
  10. Interact for the sake of interacting.


  1. Practice
  2. Practice some more.
  3. Practice when you can’t be bothered to practice.
  4. Practice when you are.
  5. Practice when you’re tired or ill.
  6. Practice when you don’t know how.
  7. Practice when you do.
  8. Practice when you’re lacking in motivation.
  9. Practice when you’re inspired.
  10. Practice for the sake of practicing.

While the process looks simple, it’s really difficult. With this process comes the self-doubt, the mental barriers, the motivation issues and the limitless external circumstances that stop you from following it in it’s simplest form.

I challenge you to get started and to have faith in the journey, because it all starts and ends with you.

The biggest enemy we’ll ever have to face on a daily basis, is yourself. So I urge you to take action.

For a more in-depth guide to help you take action, click here to gain access to my Free YOU 2.0 Course

Photo credit: Sean MacEntee

Onder Hassan
Onder Hassan

Onder is the founder of Dawn of Change. He spends most of his time in the discovery of his own potential, building his self-confidence and using his experiences to share and teach others how to do the same.

    4 replies to "The “No BS” Guide To Success"

    • jamie flexman

      Great advice Onder. As you can very well attest to; breaking out of your comfort zone by doing something scary every day will produce dramatic results that you never thought possible.

      Keep it up. Do it as often as you can.

      Just think at the end of those 180 days… 😉

      • Onder Hassan

        Thanks Jamie,

        I’ve been out of play for a few weeks due to terrible weather conditions and haven’t made any new video footage.

        But I recently had a really bad screw up with a girl I took for an coffee date there and then after meeting her.

        The interaction went really well, but I seemed to have screwed up with the texting, which made her stop texting me altogether lol

        I was well prepared for the harsh ups and downs on this journey and can see now why so many guys quit – It’s emotionally challenging. But it’s cool as it’s a character building activity in itself.

        Will be interesting to see what the end of 180-days brings…

        Sorry I haven’t been active on your blog. I’ll definitely pay a visit more frequently.

        Thanks for stopping by!

    • Walt

      Couldn’t agree more; persistence is absolutely the key. Whether it comes to making money or banging women.

      • Onder Hassan

        A big part of this is in believing you deserve it. And that comes from being confident in yourself.

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