[quote style=”boxed”]Knowing you’re afraid isn’t what matters, it’s what you do in spite of it that counts.[/quote]coping with fear

When I was 11 years old, I remember walking up on stage for the very first time having been invited to perform the Violin at my school – I was terrified!

Coping with fear wasn’t easy, with each step up to the stage being one step closer to actually performing live in front of a 200 strong audience. Every mistake would be heard, every nuance in my performance would be noted.

It was bad enough that I wasn’t popular at school or noticed by others as someone to take seriously, but I knew that this performance would either make or break me for the remainder of my school life and perhaps my entire life.

Looking back, it was probably one of the best things to have ever happened to me.

Playing the Violin and performing in Orchestras was a phase I went through not because it was something I wanted to do but because at the time, I wanted to feel part of the crowd due to my friends wanting to take classes.

The things I learned from it over the years was something I could never buy or replace.

Little did I know at the time that the simple act of playing and performing would teach me valuable lessons to face my fears and to become comfortable in it.

A lesson that i’ve managed to embrace and act on to this day subconsciously.

It’s often said that facing fear is a bad thing, which many people tend to avoid as much as possible. But perhaps you’ve read articles about it like the one i’m writing explaining why it isn’t and that the best way to get over it is to face it… Easier said than done right?

But the truth is, it is!

Looking back at all of my problems, I have not once picked out a single thing that involved anyone but myself. The person that stopped me from growing as quickly as I hoped all came down to me and my negative mindset. Fear induces negativity and the ‘worst case scenario’, which in turn causes us to over think and become paralysed in the process.

And while I could try to break down how this can be solved. I really can’t tell you a concrete process to follow in order to face your fears.

But based on my personal experience, there are pretty much 2 things that causes a person to push through their fears, which are:

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  1. Not wanting to give up on their dreams and ambitions
  2. Understanding that staying where they are would be more painful than actually facing your fears with the potential of failing.

If I were to tell you that you would never progress in life despite feeling depressed about your current situation and doing the same things you always do, would that make you afraid?

How would it make you feel if I then said that the only way to change it is to face your fears and risk failure?

While fear is a scary prospect, perhaps there is nothing more scary then to look into the future only to realise that your circumstances haven’t changed due to doing the same things you’ve always done.

Albert Einstein once said in his famous quote: “The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results”

In truth, there really isn’t any other way to make progress in life without facing your fears. I explain this in detail in my free YOU 2.0 course.

Your fears will never go away and is in fact nature’s way of telling you that it’s an opportunity to grow and evolve.

I’ve made this post short for a reason, because it’s simple. If I could give you one action point to bare in mind the next time you’re afraid of something, it would be this:

Tell your inner chatterbox to Shut the F**k up! and do what you were set out to do anyway 🙂

Is there anything in your life that currently scares you? Let me know by leaving your comments below.

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Onder Hassan
Onder Hassan

Onder is the founder of Dawn of Change. He spends most of his time in the discovery of his own potential, building his self-confidence and using his experiences to share and teach others how to do the same.

    13 replies to "Fear Will Never Go Away, Here’s Why It’s A Good Thing"

    • Vincent Nguyen

      I’m about 10 days away from getting on an airplane to go on the opposite end of the earth. I’ve never even been outside the U.S. before so I’m scared shitless at the moment.

      Either way, I’m going. 🙂

      • Onder Hassan

        You’ll be fine dude, its the anticipation of it that makes it scary as you don’t know what to expect. But once you’ve landed and got yourself familiar with the area, you’ll get over it 😉

        I’m looking forward to hearing updates man. Pretty jealous as you’ll be in with the top dogs and learning directly under them. Keep us all posted!

    • jamie flexman

      People tend to say that we should face our fears but before we do that we have to embrace and accept it. Not to fight it or it will always be a battle within.

      And to further what Vincent said – it’s not the travelling to a far away land that scares me, it’s airports and planes! Brrr.

      • Onder Hassan

        That really is the key bro. A lot of people try to avoid it, which only makes things worse. It’s not until you invite it into your life that it becomes easier to manage.

        You’re right about the airports and check in processes. It’s probably the only thing that tends to be a pain when traveling lol

        Love your latest guest post by the way. 🙂

    • Kathleen Caron

      It scares me to write and hit publish! But I do it anyway. I always feel very vulnerable sharing my written thoughts with the world. Great post Onder!

      • Onder Hassan

        Thanks Kathleen. I felt exactly the same way when I published my book a few weeks ago. It took me ages to believe that the book was good enough to launch. But having done it, I received 2 positive reviews.

        The fact is, no one knows how the world will see you until you put yourself out there. Some will love you, others will hate you. But it’s not a bad thing at all. 🙂

    • Kevin Cole

      I’m scared on a consistent basis.

      Hitting “publish” on a new blog post scares me.

      Talking to a beautiful woman scares me.

      Running a business scares me.

      But I do all of these things. There’s no getting around it. The fear is temporary emotional pain. The pay off is conquering your problems and propelling yourself to a better life. It’s always worth it.

      • Onder Hassan

        I think that’s what makes things worth pursuing. If we weren’t afraid, we’d get bored and not see it as a challenge.

        Here’s a video of one of my approaches that I mentioned in my comment on your blog 🙂 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fv_5XXMRlSI

        I’ve recorded a bunch of them and have no idea what to do with them at the moment.

    • Tom Dixon

      My biggest fear is failing to take the necessary risks to move myself forward. The cool thing is that facing your fears is like a muscle – it gets easier each time.

      • Onder Hassan

        So true Tom,
        It does get easier but the problem is once you stop, the fear creeps back in and takes a bit of time to get back into the swing of things again 🙂

        For me, one of my fears was being unemployed, and now that i’ve been in that position for a long period, i’m no longer afraid of it as much because i’ve learned how to deal with it.

    • Tony Robinson

      Great post man!

      Fear can definitely prevent you from taking action, but I’ve come to realize that when I’m afraid of doing something, it’s a sign that that’s the thing I need to do to stretch and grow myself to the next level.

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