[quote style=”boxed”]To be free is to decide… One can not exist without the other.[/quote] how to be free

When i used to think of how to be free and my ideal lifestyle. I would often imagine a beach with a hammock gently swinging away, with the sea breeze blowing my face as i sip my Pina Colada and typing away at my laptop, preparing for the beach party, nodding heads with millionaire socialites and going for jogs at sunrise. A vision which many of us dream of whilst chugging away at our 9-5 jobs in a crummy office block.

But as i’ve gotten older, i’ve now started to wonder what being free actually means. Is it really having a life free of responsibility? or a life containing a prosperous and ambitious future with a meaningful end goal?

For me, that balance has always been a mysterious yet difficult thing to attain since i’ve always believed that they both go hand-in-hand.

The more time i’ve had free from work and responsibility, the more depressed and delusional i became – On one hand, i seemed like a boat with no paddle; A person with massive potential yet somehow wasting it all away with the delusion of living a lifestyle full of beaches, cocktails and travels.

Yet on the other hand, i also felt like an office drone with no emotion or thoughts of my own, and conforming to company policies and regulations.

Having recognized the two extremes, it made me wonder why we work hard in the first place, since most of us look for freedom in one way or another by spending extra time in the office in the hope that one day, we too could have the financial resources to live a comfortable and happy life with family and be ‘free’ from strain.

The answers to my problems soon became clear the moment i decided to focus on my personal development.

The older i became with each passing year, the more of a sense of urgency i started to develop having realized that time doesn’t come back. What we effectively do in the present moment is perhaps the most valuable thing we can ever embrace in our lives yet for some reason or another, tend to either think of the past or the future.

Is my time really better spent sipping Pina Coladas on a Beach? or embarking on things that will improve my growth as a human being?

Having made the decision to want to improve myself in every way, it opened myself up to possibilities and answers which i’ve always wanted to know when i was younger. My world had expanded and was no longer left feeling hopeless or limited. Anything i decided to do was now within limits and was bound by nothing.

In order to understand this, we need to first make a decision to want to grow and become better human beings. This in turn causes us to start asking ourselves the right questions.

Questions like:

– What can i do with myself to improve X,Y,Z?
– Am i happy with what i’m currently doing?
– Is what i’m doing inline with my purpose?
– Am i growing and learning something new with what i’m doing?
– Am i better or worse off with what i’m currently doing?

The deeper i got into this, the more i started to understand the essence of what it means to be a human being –

A person with a natural drive to grow and become better.

Steve Pavlina wrote a popular post on his blog discussing reasons why we should never get a job. What really stuck out for me was when he mentioned the following:

[quote]It’s funny that when people reach a certain age, such as after graduating college, they assume it’s time to go out and get a job. But like many things the masses do, just because everyone does it doesn’t mean it’s a good idea.[/quote]

This highlights something very important to me which if i had read a few years earlier, probably would have misunderstood the underlying context. And that is…

Are you doing something directly inline with your purpose? or simply following what society has set out for you?

Many of us naturally get this, which explains why most of us set out for work each day.

Yet what we all fail to recognize is that there is absolutely no reason why we should work for our freedom, because our freedom is already here with us in the present.

All we have to do is to simply decide what it is we want to do and to then go about in making it happen.

Do you have a drive to help others? Or the drive to want to be a professional author?

Whatever it is you have in mind, understand that in order to get there, you will have to set a path for yourself that is different from everyone else. This will mean separating yourself from constructs, and ways of living in order to make this happen.

We are all the same, yet very different. We all have a purpose that is required to spread and shape the world in our own unique ways.

But in order to do that, we must first be willing to follow our own path.

photo credit: Camdiluv ♥

Onder Hassan
Onder Hassan

Onder is the founder of Dawn of Change. He spends most of his time in the discovery of his own potential, building his self-confidence and using his experiences to share and teach others how to do the same.