Is it possible to get everything you want from this world without asking for anything?

As weird as this may sound. But yes you can!

As of today, I have to be frank and say that I’m completely wrong. Because having gone out for 2 months now whilst taking some breaks in between. It has only now been apparent to me as to why I was failing and doing terribly when starting conversations with people and perhaps everything else in my life I’ve experienced in the past.

The long and short of it is. I feel so much more grateful and happy after the events of what happened versus any other day of my life so far.

Did I win the lottery?… Nope, though it almost feels that way.

Did I find a cure for cancer?… Nope, far from it.

The answer is simple… I feel great because I gave something of myself that made someone feel great about themselves.

Every single person I approached, stopped and spoke to me.

Every interaction felt as though I was giving away enormous value to the person, which made them want to invest further in the interaction.

The reason why was because I genuinely felt great about myself and due to the nice weather at the time, made me feel as though I was walking on water. Confident, happy and self-assured, which clearly showed.

This taught me a valuable lesson – You can’t expect anything from anyone without giving value to that person in the first place.

A few people might argue that you can cut out a lot of this rubbish and simply offer monetary value and resources as that’s what’s really important in life when it comes to wealth.

First of all, let me just say that you’ve been lied to!

Money and external resources have no value. They are all the things we’ve been conditioned to believe as valuable by society by the world around us.

If anything, it becomes a detriment to your self-esteem because you’re essentially training yourself to believe that who you are isn’t enough.

But without digressing too much, the real value comes from who you are as a person and what you genuinely have to offer to someone, which in most cases isn’t something that’s particularly tangible.

So what is valuable?

It’s pretty simple… It’s YOU.

Everything in this world begins and ends with you. Whatever you project onto the world gets reflected back to you, and gives you a clue as to the type of person you really are.

So if your life currently isn’t where you want it to be, sit up and take notice.

Why isn’t it?

Is the world to blame for your problems or is it because of the actions you’ve taken due to your negative psychology?

The answer is obvious.

So how do you become valuable?

No one can give you the permission to be valuable or be anything for that matter. It all has to come from you and have to essentially give yourself the permission to be.

It reminds me of a really cool video that a friend of mine showed me a few years ago, which helped put everything into perspective.

If you’re sitting on your comfy chair right now and reading this article, trying really hard to identify with the things I’ve written and whether or not you have value to give to others.

Please try to understand that you do. There is nothing different about you that others can’t relate to in some way. You have the opportunity to be and do anything in this world.

And it all starts with giving yourself permission to do so.


Onder Hassan
Onder Hassan

Onder is the founder of Dawn of Change. He spends most of his time in the discovery of his own potential, building his self-confidence and using his experiences to share and teach others how to do the same.