[quote style=”boxed”]We are all a result of the beliefs, actions and habits acquired over time. So if you think you’re all you are and can’t change, think again – Your potential for growth is limitless[/quote]self confident

In today’s modern world, we’re often told that a self confident person is someone who is born that way and that if we don’t have it, we can pretty much forget about our chances of ever having success or prosperity. I for one believed this for a good portion of my life, until i learned to realize that we’re all a product of repeated beliefs, actions and habits accumulated over a period of time.

In a recent study conducted by behavioral geneticist Corina Greven of King’s College London and her colleague Robert Plomin of the Institute of Psychiatry. They argued that self-confidence is more than just a state of mind and that of a genetic predisposition. They then went on to conclude that a person’s level of self-confidence is directly proportional to a person’s IQ level and performance.

While i can’t argue with science on an academic level. What i can say based on my experience and logic is that while science can attempt to create facts from human behavior (which i think is impossible) What i think science can’t quantify is the level of a human’s potential for growth and adaptability. We simply can’t be put into small boxes due to our unique capacity to learn, reason and the ability to adapt with our surroundings.

It’s due to these facts that i believe science to be inaccurate.

While it’s true that many people grow to become self confident naturally, there are also others who fail to admit to themselves that they can be changed or improved.

Is this nature or an act of choice?

I believe that our biggest indicator for potential is in our ability to direct and focus our minds in a way that guides us towards self-confidence, and not due to a defect in our genetics.

The simple fact of the matter is, all of us were born with the same gray matter. The only person who uses it in the end, is the person who’s born with it. Some of us grow to become influenced in a range of ways, mainly through our upbringing, the friends we spend time with and the things we experience. But how we then choose to process and interpret that information is left entirely on the individual.

With this understanding, we can then start to form a clearer picture of the actual reality of our true potential.

We all have a choice. But the question is, how do we make the correct choice?

I suggest one strategy –

If there’s something not quite right in your life right now based on your current set of beliefs and actions (which have become a habit over time) then make a conscious effort to change it.

If you do feel you lack self-confidence, i encourage you to take a step back from all the things you’ve experienced, read, seen and done and really start to think and understand who you really are as an individual. Your potential for growth really is limitless. The very fact that we all started off learning and teaching ourselves to stand and walk is a testament to our ability to persist and grow.

All of us were born self-confident. However, it’s up to us to realize and in turn, build on it.

If science really is right, then perhaps we should question why we’re all here in the first place. And it’s clearly not by coincidence.

Onder Hassan
Onder Hassan

Onder is the founder of Dawn of Change. He spends most of his time in the discovery of his own potential, building his self-confidence and using his experiences to share and teach others how to do the same.