[quote style=”boxed”]You will never know where you’re going wrong unless you take your time[/quote]succeeding takes time

Is it possible to succeed whilst taking your time?

When I look back on my past successes, it’s clear that many of them had involved a streak of failures and mishaps along the way, causing a tremendous amount of frustration and disappointment.

It’s perhaps a common theme, which every successful person goes through when learning and pursuing a new endeavor. Hardly any of them have an easy ride due to not knowing what to do and learning through experience.

There are also people however who i’ve come across who seem to have an easy time. They coast through life with no hardship with success often being a straight line upwards. This would often frustrate me to see knowing how hard it was for me going through a similar process but not having it as easy.

The truth is, there is rarely ever an easy way out

In time as i’ve gotten older, i’ve seen many of these individuals hit hard as of when they experienced an ounce of failure. It had given me the realization that failure and adversity is perhaps the most important thing when trying to succeed because without it, it is seemingly close to impossible to deal with due to not previously experiencing it and learning how to handle it.

Kathleen Caron wrote a really great article recently on her blog and asks the question whether slow and steady wins the race. She uses the ‘Tortoise and the Hare’ story and has an interesting take on it; describing the Tortoise as a bad example given the analogy of success.

How could a Tortoise succeed if it’s nature is to simply defend itself in times of danger or threat? A fair point indeed…

It’s clear that in looking at success and failure as it is, many of us are simply too afraid of taking action. This is most commonly true with people who are unaware of their thought patterns and belief systems. However I would argue that most of us given the situation are Tortoises for this very reason.

Unless we have an easy time like the Hare does, it is simply too painful for most of us to want to face rejection or hardship. This is clearly evident when looking at Advertisements. Most Advertisers are clearly aware of this and use this to their advantage in order to sell products and services.

“Look younger with just a few applications”

“7 days to whiter teeth”

“How I lost 12lb of fat in just 10 days”

Given the choice, we would much rather experience peace of mind than to go through a series of pains and frustrations in order to see results.

How to turn this around

Why we can’t deny our nature and subconscious reaction to things. It does become imperative to realize how important it is to learn how to observe our behaviors and to become conscious of it as of when it happens. For the simple reason:

We are naturally designed for comfort, which doesn’t conform well to becoming successful.

In order to succeed, we must go through hardship and challenges in order to better prepare us for it further down the line once we’re successful.

Watch the following video below where I explain this in visual form.

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To sum up, here are 2 key reasons why succeeding takes time in order to see benefits.

1) You get to experience all possibilities

Experience is essential if you’re to become successful at your chosen field. What this does is it will help you see every possible aspect of failure you could potentially come across, which will help you calibrate and make better decisions in your life.

The less of this you get to experience, the harder it will be for you further down the line. Take your time and embrace the challenge as it will better serve you moving forward.

2) The more hardship you experience, the stronger you will become

In my life, I have hardly ever met a person who had a hard time in life and not come out of it a better person. We need challenges in our lives in order to develop into stronger people, which will better serve us moving forward as of when similar challenges arise. If we choose not to embrace it, it will only serve to hinder us in the future.

What are your experiences at success and failure? Please leave your comments below. I would love to hear your thoughts.

Photo credit: quinn.anya


Onder Hassan
Onder Hassan

Onder is the founder of Dawn of Change. He spends most of his time in the discovery of his own potential, building his self-confidence and using his experiences to share and teach others how to do the same.

    13 replies to "Why Succeeding Takes Time And How To Embrace It"

    • Onder Hassan

      Thanks Kathleen. I really liked you post as well and is what inspired me to write it in the first place 🙂

    • Tom Dixon

      I think what is important to remember when you see other succeeding “quickly” is that you don’t necessarily know how long they have struggled without making progress..it is easy to project quick success on others, but my experience is that success builds over time in the decisions you make every day.

      • Onder Hassan

        That’s very true and make a good point.
        Some people may have a natural aptitude on certain things that would be a perfect fit for the task at hand, which would result in quicker success. While others would need to work on their fundamentals and to develop themselves enough to be able to see the same results. A lot of variables for sure.

    • Hiten Vyas

      Hi Onder,

      This was a wonderful post! I loved watching your video, too!

      One point you made really stood out for me. It was what you said about the importance of experience and how experience allows us to see possible failures and change accordingly. This is so true! It’s like when we experience a failure, our brains process it and next time round, we can take an alternative route, as we have learnt from the failure.

      Thank you.

      • Onder Hassan

        Thanks Hiten 🙂
        It’s true. Experience is the best teacher and more valuable than the end result.
        That’s why entrepreneurs can lose all of their fortune and make it back within a few years. The money they have means nothing. What has real value is their skills and experience. Goes back to the old saying:

        “Give a man a fish and he’ll be fed for a day. But teach him how to fish and he’ll feed himself” 🙂

    • Vincent Nguyen

      Always keep in mind that there is a dark side to hardship as well. Some people become broken when they run into too many walls. The important step is to pace yourself and truly try to learn from the failures. Challenges without learning can be discouraging, so you are right about embracing them.

      • Onder Hassan

        I know what you mean. It’s difficult at first because no one wants to experience failure and can hit you hard if you’re not prepared for it.
        I think it’s always a good idea to give someone the awareness that failure is a necessary and natural part of the process and that it’s expected when doing something new.

        A lot of us (myself included) often mistake it for being easy, which isn’t a surprise considering the fact that we’re too often shown success stories of people achieving success with no back story of how they got there in the first place.
        So i think it’s always good to remind ourselves of it.

    • Steve Bloom

      Very good points. It takes a lot of time to get to where you want to be. Along the way, you have to make a lot of mistakes and feel your way. I wish it was as simple as going from point A to point B, but it isn’t.

      It reminds me of a quote from Edison. He said something like I didn’t fail 100 times in making the light bulb, I just found 100 ways that didn’t work. It’s like you said, you have to experience all possibilities. The long way is usually the best way.

      • Onder Hassan

        It’s very true Steve.
        In addition to failing, what it really builds is character and humility. Having it easy isn’t always a good thing because we generally don’t value what’s easy. We have to work for it, which is what makes us appreciate what we have. That’s why you don’t often see self-made millionaires splash their money about. Because they know what it took to earn that money in the first place 🙂

    • Nick

      ‘We are naturally designed for comfort’ Unfortunately true, well I say that, the filters for success are there for a reason.

      Personally I like to step away from the thoughts of hardship and difficulty. Whenever I’ve overcome a challenge I immediately think of what I’ve learnt and the ways in which I’ve grown. On the other hand, whenever I’m faced with challenge I like to think of the things I need to learn, it sets a positive spin on things. It doesn’t happen all the time, but it helps tremendously.

      I loved the post, Onder!

      • Onder Hassan

        Thanks for that Nick,
        I love the ideas and what you do to overcome your problems.
        What is most difficult is when we invest in something and it doesn’t work. We become so attached to it that it often times becomes difficult to let go. Whether it’s a failing relationship, business or even a job. We seem to hold onto things due to a heavy investment on it.
        So as of when we walk away from it, it becomes painful to move on. This is partly why many of us don’t want to fail due to the emotional ramifications it provides.
        Surrendering is so important. The minute we give in and experience it for what it is and go with the flow, that’s when you open yourself up to success. Something I try to work on daily. 🙂

    • kizi friv

      “You will never know where you’re going wrong unless you take your time” .Precisely, I’ve been through the same time and found this very meaningful.

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